Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life!
Even just reading this blog post can start you thinking ...
POSTED BY DEBRA STEVENS ON 11/07/2019 @ 8:00AM
Before I give away too much, answer the following questions using the following words, and be really honest (no point in cheating): Never, occasionally, often, always ...
You can change your mindset, even by just reading this blog post!
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When you see or hear about someone else being successful, does it make you feel that you're not doing enough or that you just don't have the same talent or intelligence as them?
Do you view the success of others as a threat?
If something is difficult and outside of your comfort zone, do you often give up when it gets tough?
When you're trying to be successful at something do you try avoiding failure at all costs?
When you fail, do you see it as confirmation that this is something you are not good at or don't have the intelligence to succeed at?
Do you resist challenges if they make you feel uncomfortable?
Do you find negative feedback difficult to take and try to ignore it?
How you answered the above questions reveal whether or not you have a fixed mindset. You can only really discard the 'nevers', so if you have any of the other answers you need to do some work on your growth mindset.
"Let me explain what a growth mindset is!"
If you have children at school, the chances are you will have come across the growth mindset with them and their teachers, as this theory was developed to help children and students understand how they can be more successful with their learning.
This powerful theory was developed by Professor Carol Dweck from Stanford University in the USA. Carol spent decades researching the field of both achievement and success then came up with a new psychology of success based on mindset. More and more, this theory is being used to help adults as well. Whether you are an entrepreneur or work for someone else, applying this theory can literally be life-changing.
"This growth mindset is based on the belief that your basic qualities are things you can cultivate through your efforts, your strategies, and help from others. Although people may differ in every which way - in their initial talents and aptitudes, interests, or temperament - everyone can change and grow through application and experience." - Carol Dweck
What's the difference between a growth mindset and a fixed mindset?
Fixed mindset – Your intelligence is fixed and you can't change it, challenges are avoided, as failure equals lack of ability so the effort is seen as fruitless. Getting things wrong and receiving feedback is negative and damaging as it shows you up as having limitations.
Growth Mindset – Your intelligence can be developed and challenges are welcomed because you believe it is all about improvement. The effort is worthwhile as it is a way to becoming a master at something. Making mistakes and getting feedback is therefore positive as it develops improvement and growth.
The great news is you can change your mindset! Even just reading this blog post can start you thinking and reacting in a more growth mindset way.
The attributes of a growth mindset are:
Believing that intelligence can be developed
Persisting in the face of setbacks
Viewing effort as the path to mastery
Learning from criticism
Finding lessons and inspiration in the success of others
Welcoming challenges and viewing setbacks as an opportunity to learn and grow
So, are you ready to make the change? Below are 7 really great ways to make it happen!
Say yes to opportunities to step outside of your comfort zone
Step outside of your comfort zone at least once a day even if it makes you feel sick in your stomach. When you've done something new or challenging, reflect on what you learnt and how your comfort zone expanded.
Ask questions! There is no such thing as a stupid question
There is no shame in asking questions to expand your knowledge or understand something better. When you were a child, you never stopped asking questions so step back in time and be the curious child again.
See challenges as growth opportunities
When you reflect on the activities that challenged you rather than focusing on the obstacles, think about on how you overcame them. Jot down everything you learnt in the process and see how much you have grown. This will help you to embrace challenges as opportunities and chances to learn.
Learn to love your mistakes
We learn more through getting things wrong than anything else, yet we often beat ourselves up when we do. Taking risks is essential if we want to grow, if you make a mistake don't be so hard on yourself think about how far you have come instead.
Don't hide from feedback, seek it out instead
I know it's hard to hear criticism and you want to get defensive. Instead, ask questions. Find out more about where it's coming from. Look at how it can help you and take the personal out of it. Be brave and actually seek it out from people you trust.
Reflect, Reflect, Reflect!
This is the best way to develop your skills; it's about questioning - in a positive way - what you did and deciding if there is a better way to do it in the future.
Actively seek out new things. The more you do the more you learn.
Look for opportunities to do something different and new, be brave go for it because it literally is 'who dares wins'
If you'd like to find out more about how to change your mindset, either for you or your staff, then do give me a call on 01908 511 062 or click here to ping me an email and let's see how I can help you.
Until next time ...
More about Debra Stevens ...
I'm the founder of DTS, which was established in 1996. A highly successful experiential training company specialising in facilitating behavioural change in all aspects of dealings with people, whether in customer service, sales, management or with colleagues and teammates.
I've managed large contracts such as Pearson Education, Coca Cola, Penguin Books, Accenture, and Santander for over 21 years and have built up excellent relationships with key sponsors of all aspects of the businesses.
I'm a successful trainer, writer and speaker with nearly 30 years' experience of training people at all levels.
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